Why Struggling is Good

Dress:  Shein // Shoes:  Old Navy (sold out)

Ok, now before you assume what this post is about, just hear me out.  You know the saying, when life hands, you lemons you make lemonade?  Well, that’s kind of what this post is about, but in my own opinion.  I know how it is to think “why me?”  And don’t tell me otherwise!  I’ve struggled in my life, maybe not as bad as others, but I know what it’s like to not understand why bad things are happening to me when I didn’t do anything to deserve it.  The thing is, not many people deserve the cards that have been dealt to them, but you have to learn how to adapt.  You have to learn to never give up and you cannot accept defeat.  I hate to use a cliché saying but, what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.

When I was first diagnosed with epilepsy I honestly wanted to give up.  I thought my life was over.  What did I do in this world to deserve this?  Now, I still don’t know why I ended up with this condition, but I know everything happens for a reason.  Maybe it’s because I’m a blogger, and I have the ability and the platform to spread awareness and explain this condition.  Maybe it’s so that I could help at least one person out there who had the same thoughts that I did when I was younger.

When I went to college I was in really bad and toxic relationships.  I won’t go into detail about a few of them, but what I went through I don’t wish upon anyone.  I kept thinking in my head, why can’t I just find a good guy.  Some of my friends were married young, and there I was, dating f*** boys.  I kind of brought some of it upon myself because I was naive and thought people could change, and trusted very easily.  I feel like no matter how broken I was, I still believed there was someone out there who was my soulmate.  My fiancé came at the best time in my life and it was so unexpected.  Here was a man who I had known since high school and for whatever reason, it just clicked that we were meant to be together.  I feel like all of my previous relationships prepared me to be the woman I am today in our relationship.  I don’t fight over stupid things anymore, and I think of a relationship as a team.  I’m so happy that those previous relationships prepared me to be the partner that I am to my fiancé.  It also showed me how bad a relationship can be and what I didn’t want.  I got really lucky with my fiancé because guys like him are basically diamonds in the ruff.

Once I graduated college in 2009, I saw how big of a struggle it was to get a job.  Now some people I knew had connections so they had a job straight out of college, but then there was me.  I couldn’t find a job, no matter how many times I applied and no matter how many interviews I went on.  The jobs that I did find were terrible.  I ended up going back to school for my MBA so not having a big girl job worked out.  Then in 2012 I graduated with my MBA.  I still couldn’t find a job.  So, I struggled yet again.  Thankfully I lived at home so it’s not like I had to pay for other bills, but I still had bills.  Once I finally found my first big girl job (the last job that I left a few months ago) I was so extremely appreciative.  I pushed myself to be the best that I could be.  I grew with that company as a professional and a person.  It prepared me for the job that I’m currently at.

I wouldn’t trade my struggles for a silver spoon.  I learned a lot about life, people, and myself.  Thanks to this, I appreciate things more and I don’t take anything for granted.  This made me the firecracker than I am today.

I had to add a blooper into this post.  The above picture was taken when I had realized that the entire time I was posing for these pictures there was a dead bird and I wanted to cry.

xoxo Monica

**Please note I received this dress as a review, however all opinions are my own.

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