Follow your own Timeline

Top: Shein // Pants:  DKNY (old) // Fishnet Socks:  Berkshire Legs // Shoes:  Lasocki // Backpack:  Lasocki

Lately, people have been making me think about my future because of my age.  I honestly don’t feel 30.  I feel like it was just yesterday that I graduated college with my MBA and didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life.  As of recently people have really been bugging me about my future.  When are you getting married?  You haven’t set a date yet?!  When are you having kids?  What do you mean you don’t want kids?!  Are you looking for a house yet?

That’s what made me want to write this post.  First of all, last I checked, this was my life not yours.  As I’ve said on this blog multiple times, EVERYONE has their own timeline. There should be no one pressuring you in your life to make you take those big steps.

When are you getting married?  You haven’t set a date yet?!

With divorce rates so high nowadays, you would think people would be happy that a couple is in no rush to get married.

“Marriage and divorce are both common experiences. In Western cultures, more than 90 percent of people marry by age 50. Healthy marriages are good for couples’ mental and physical health. They are also good for children; growing up in a happy home protects children from mental, physical, educational and social problems. However, about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher.” (www.apa.org/topics/divorce)

My fiancé and I are in absolutely no rush.  We know we want to be together forever, and we don’t need a piece of paper that badly to say that we are together for life.  So what if I don’t have that piece of paper?  At the end of the day that piece of paper means jack shit for 40-50% of married couples in the US.  I’m not one of those girls who’s obsessed with getting married, although, my Pinterest might make you think otherwise lol.

At the end of the day, we will get married when we want to.  We are focusing on building our life together and both being in a good spot.

When are you having kids?  What do you mean you don’t want kids?!  You’ll totally change your mind, I promise you.

Ugh, this is the most annoying thing I get asked.  When I was in Poland with my mom all of her friends were basically forcing me to change my mind about not wanting to have children.  They couldn’t believe that I didn’t want kids.  Newsflash, this is my body, my life, and if I don’t want children, there’s nothing wrong with that.  What’s really frustrating is the same moms that are posting about how their whole life is so horrible on Facebook and how you’ll never sleep again after kids, BUT oh they’re such a miracle, are the same ones trying to convince me to have kids.  Girlfriend, you just talked about how your life is terrible and you get no sleep.  I’m NOT willing to give that up anytime soon.  I don’t even see myself with kids within the next 5 years to be completely honest.

I understand that they are miracles and bundles of joy, but I’m not ready for a little monster.  And if I tell you I’m not ready, please respect my opinion and stop trying to change my mind.  The more people try to change my mind, the more I don’t want them because it’s just annoying.  I get that you’re never truly ready for a child, however, I know 110% I’m not ready.  I’m not financially stable, and I don’t want to give up my life yet.  I like my life the way it is.

Are you looking for a house yet?

Actually, yes.  The fiancé and I started looking and have an idea in mind of what we are looking for.  We are basically looking for our first home and not our forever home.  We aren’t really set on a location just yet, so this is the reasoning behind not looking for our forever home.  We have already looked at a few houses both online and in person.  I’m so happy that my fiancé is in construction, because he has been the brains behind the operation.  He’s able to just look at a few things and know if it’s worth it or not.  There were things that he noticed in these houses that the average homeowner/person looking to buy a house wouldn’t even think to look at.

At the end of the day, I’ve talked about these things multiple times before, but I feel like people continue to try and make me stem off my timeline.  This is my life, and anything that has happened in my life, I’m responsible for.

Also, as a side note, I received this top from Shein and I’m in love with it.  I feel like the girl on my shirt because o the bluish hair haha.  I also wanted to point out my socks that are from Berkshire Legs.  Love love love th socks and shoes trend, especially with the shoes I’m wearing in today’s post.

**Please note, I received this top from Shein as a review & these socks from Berkshire Legs, however all opinions are my own.

xoxo Monica

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